- Start a conversation
- What is interesting to talk about with most people?
- Be sincere
- Discuss the current
- Interested in the question
- Know the pitfalls
- Focus on the interlocutor
- Brief conclusions
Communication with people in one form or another is an integral part of our life. How to make it fun and enjoyable? For various reasons, not all people are able to start, develop and maintain a natural conversation. Especially if you have to talk with an unfamiliar person or someone you are in love with. What to do? Only one way out - to learn the art of casual conversation. This article contains the most interesting topics and ideas for discussion, which will help to navigate in any situation and get the most out of communication with people.
Start a conversation
For many people, this is the hardest part of the conversation. Not knowing what to talk about, they begin to panic, embarrass and utter words out of place. To avoid this, first calm down. Communication should be fun, not torture. In addition, your interlocutor may not be less embarrassed and just try to come up with interesting topics for discussion.
The British claim that the best opportunity to start a casual conversation is a discussion of the weather. It sounds trite, but in some cases it really helps to overcome the feeling of awkwardness. As an option - you can draw the attention of the interlocutor to something happening next to or outside the window (unusual clothes of a passerby, funny animal, interesting sign).
However, no one will guarantee that another person will be interested in your comment. Therefore, it is better to act for sure. Most people are happy to share their opinions or talk about how they live. This will not only provide interesting topics for discussion, but also make communication more comfortable.
If you know a little person, ask:
- about his attitude to any situation;
- about what is connected with his life (where he was born, studied, worked, traveled; what was remembered in those places);
- about children if your partner is a parent;
- how he met the owners of the house (if you met at a party).
When talking with someone who has not been seen for a long time, ask:
- what did you do, what has changed in life during this time;
- about family, children, work;
- have you seen mutual acquaintances
Speaking with someone you see often (colleagues, fellow students, classmates), ask this person:
- how is he doing, what was new yesterday or over the weekend;
- how is the family: parents, children;
- about news related to work (study);
- impressions about the new film, TV program, popular song, video or meme, latest news, etc.
What is interesting to talk about with most people?
Find a general topic:
- Travels Where have visited, where want to go that can advise.
- The accompanying situation. Food in a cafe, a program on TV, a song on the radio - these are popular topics for discussion. At the same time, you can recall curious facts or incidents from life, ask the interlocutor about his tastes, personal experience, etc.
- Hobby. Most often, people like to talk about what interests them in life. Ask questions, show interest and simultaneously mention your hobbies.
- The topic or area of life in which your partner is well versed. You can ask him questions and share your own impressions.
Good communication is impossible without genuine interest of the interlocutors to each other and to the topic of conversation. There will be no problems between friends, but what about unfamiliar people?
If you want to make a good impression on your interlocutor, you need sincerity and genuine interest in what you are told about. Flawless, but cold manners and a tense smile can hardly endear themselves. Unbridled chatter - too; Who would like to listen to a twenty-minute monologue without the ability to insert a word?
Make the person feel comfortable talking to you. Look to both of you for interesting topics for discussion, ask for the opinion of the person, but speak less about yourself and only when asked. You can alternate: a replica about your business - a question to the interlocutor.
A good way to win the sympathy - a compliment, but made from the heart and not banal.
Discuss the current
If you do not know how to suggest an interesting topic for a conversation, think what I would like to discuss to the person with whom you are talking. Sociable people themselves will offer you a topic, it will only support it with questions. With less talkative people you can discuss current news (choosing something nice), news of film distribution or something related to the situation (work, food, skills, nice wardrobe details, etc.).
Interested in the question
What if you have already discussed all the above topics? Then you can use interesting questions as topics for conversation. For example:
- Do you want to become famous?
- What would you spend a million?
- What three things can't you live without?
- What is your cherished dream?
- Do you believe in fate (astrology, fortune telling)?
- What was your most interesting adventure?
- Who did you dream to be in childhood?
- What is the perfect holiday for you?
- What makes you happy?
- What qualities do people like?
You can use these or any other interesting questions for discussion to find out something new about your interlocutor, and to make the conversation more unpredictable and exciting. Just do not use too many questions, it will cause an awkward person. The ideal option is to link the issue to the topic currently being discussed. Start a conversation about something, and alternate questions with the interlocutor with small portions of information about you.
Know the pitfalls
What better to avoid:
- bad habits;
- relationships, marriage, children (if you do not know the social status of a person);
- parents (suddenly, the interlocutor has problems in the family?);
- cash issues;
- religion, politics, sex and other "slippery" topics in which you can offend a person with an occasional remark.
Focus on the interlocutor
If you communicate in a company, involve all the participants in the conversation. Throw interesting topics for discussion through questions and do not get carried away with long monologues.
If you see that the interlocutor is bored, change the subject and shut up a little, giving the person an opportunity to take the initiative. Do not be afraid of pauses in a conversation, because it would be much worse to say stupidity or offend a person with a thoughtless phrase. A short silence will help to relax and think about the further course of the conversation.
If you notice that some topic has aroused your interlocutor's interest, remember it to talk about it next time. If, on the contrary, a person clearly did not like something or seemed boring, take a note - no longer touch this question.
In communication, the main thing is genuine interest in who you are talking to. In any situation, the most interesting topics for discussion are as follows:
- personal opinion of your interlocutor;
- a situation in which you are (away, at work, in transport, etc.);
- travel (real or desired);
- a sphere of life that the interlocutor knows well;
- current and positive news;
- movies, music, books, hobbies, sports;
- questions that encourage reasoning.
And although communication is one of the most difficult activities in our life, you can still learn it, if you show a sincere interest in what other people say and want.